Boys can be so stooopid!

Mr. Marine IM'd me out of the blue yesterday morning. I have no idea why. We've had one txt conversation and one IM conversation since he left in June. So he wanted to talk and was really quite charming about it . . . despite acting as though our last conversation had actually been recent.

Eventually this false buddy-buddy tone got on my nerves ... I called him on it, saying real friends don't disappear for a month, and ... he blew up at me. Mr. I'm-A-Nice-Guy-I-Never-Lose-My-Temper had himself a tantrum over how clingy I've been (wtf?), and after a good bit of ranting finished with: "and what effort have you put into this? I'm the one who cleared my schedule to see you, I'm the one who flew out there. Where have you flown?"

*sigh* In a way, Doofus has a point. He did put forth a significant amount of effort and resources ($$) to come see me. On the other hand, Doofus is a doofus and also AWOL from my life for the last month. I think I have a legitimate point in that true friendship is not formed on five minutes a month.

So after all this Mr. Marine logged off in a huff. I have no idea whether or not I'll hear from him, or when it might be. And you know what? For once that's ok with me. I am vaguely annoyed that he got sex from me out of this deal, but I really don't need or want him in my life.

"Boys can be so stooopid!" -- Mrs. Smoochy

Happy Birthday To Me! (Director's Cut)

Or: "When The Cat's Away, The Mice Will Play"

My other, happy to-be-me, bestest-birthday-present ever was . . . Mr. Smoochy.

Yes, that's right. Birthday sex for the Spinster.

Dear Reader, you might be wondering now just how such a thing came to be, given that Mrs. Smoochy has pasted her own photo into the dictionary right next to psycho hose beast. Well, see, it just so happens that she has been gone all week to a pagan fuckfest in the boonies and left poor Mr. Smoochy all by his lonesome. She must have been having a Very Good Time, because she made a phone call home on Sunday or Monday and basically released him for the week to play with whomever he wished, apparently including those of us not in The List. (For the record, I am not altogether convinced that Mrs. Smoochy's permissions were meant to include myself. Right or wrong, however, Mr. Smoochy interpreted their conversation that way, and that is good enough for me.)

Immediately after this miracle conversation, Mr. Smoochy called me up and we discussed the whole situation in depth. He struggled endearingly with assuming Full Speed Ahead and remembering that I too have some say in the matter. It was one of those all-night, intimate, naked-in-our-own-beds phone calls that make friendships with the opposite sex so satisfying.

Mr. Smoochy came over late Wednesday afternoon. We hung out while dinner cooked (roast lamb, steamed asparagus, and french bread). I usually dislike cooking intensely; it is a lot of work for little reward. However, I do so love to cook for Mr. Smoochy -- I find a very primal satisfaction in watching him eat food that I have prepared. For dessert, he had made a Black Forest Torte that was out of this world.

After dinner we put in a movie and snuggled on the couch, although truth be told, we paid very little attention to the movie. It wasn't long before he began to nibble my ears, and with my first moan there was no turning back. On the couch in the dark, his expert touch primed my body thoroughly. His tongue caressed the back of my neck while one of his big, strong hands held my throat; his other hand roamed my body until it found its way down to my wet pussy. Starting lightly, he teased and tortured my clit (his other hand choking off my moans) until I came in his arms.

After a short cuddle, we adjurned to my bedroom for reasons of space and comfort. Once there I was happy to fill my mouth with his cock. I have not always been the most enthusiastic fellationist . . . but this man, this cock, I couldn't get enough. I loved feeling him get hard against my tongue. I loved looking up at him, straight in the eye with my mouth filled with him. And I sucked him greedily until he filled my mouth with cum. My god, did it taste good. I could have that man in my mouth forever.

He floated down from his orgasm, then went to work again on my pussy. Flicking, tickling, rubbing, fucking -- his hands were magic. I reached for his cock and stroked him as he stroked me. Occasionally he would pause and swat my ass. Sadist that he is, my yelps would make him harder. Eventually he reached for a condom and put it on. First we fucked doggy-style, but when he wasn't getting the reaction he wanted from me he asked if I would be on top. We switched positions, and Oh My God.

I don't always enjoy being on top, but this time was spectacular. I have often had trouble providing a pace that can get a guy off -- it was completely gratifying that I was able to get Mr. Smoochy off this way. It also just so happens that we came at the same time, which was a first for me in any position with any partner.

Sex with Mr. Smoochy was completely different from sex I've had with anyone else. For one thing, I have never been friends with any of my previous partners. Because we've had over a year of sexual communication there was none of the blind fumbling and bad assumptions that some men bring to bed. He mostly already knew my body, that that made things so much better. And trusting him as much as I do, I was able to relax and enjoy myself more than I have with anyone else.

I would definitely have sex with this man again. I think (hope) that he would return to my bed, if given the chance. Mrs. Smoochy returns home tomorrow; I have no idea what that will bring. He may opt not to tell her outright what he's been up to. He may tell her, and she may be ok with it. Or she might not. He and I both agreed to approach this as a one-time-only deal.

But I sincerely hope that it is not.

Happy Birthday To Me!

Yesterday was my birthday.

This auspicious day has historically be spent in bed, mostly dozing, and emphatically denying that another year of my life has been wasted.

This year was different. This year I got two of the best birthday presents ever!

My beloved Firebird has been irritable and distant for months -- it's been spending more and more time in my mechanic's garage and I think it's been having a torrid affair with the 1960-something Olds 442 they keep on the lot. So I took it to a dealership and traded it in for a truck. A big, growling Dodge Ram. Happy Birthday to me :)

My other birthday present was, if possible, even better. But you'll just have to wait until I write up a proper post before you find out :)

I love this post from bad influence girl:

On Droughts and Fog

I abhor the flash-flood nature of my (love)life.

Dotty has disappeared into the ether. I haven't heard from him since right around the 4th when he suggested we go out.

GH and I managed to go out, but I haven't had so much as an IM from him in the last week.

I decided earlier this week to take the initiative and invite Jackson out. It should be no surprise to you that he completely blew me off with a litany of why he wouldn't have time to get together. This person was coming to town, he had to meet with that person, he had his son one night, he was going somewhere the other night ... yadda yadda. I don't begrudge anyone a busy life, but I firmly believe that people make time for the things they want. As he didn't even bother to suggest when he could meet, it is apparent that Jackson is not all that interested. I will ask again in a few days just in case he had a flaky moment, but my money's on the answer being the same.

I sent an IM to Mr. Marine last Monday, after not hearing from him since the day I dropped him off at the airport. He waited until I was offline again to respond, and he gave me a load of ultra-lame hooey about how he'd been sick since he'd returned home, and had been going to bed every night right after work. WTF? No one is that sick for an entire month. I am officially writing him off.

What is so very wrong with me that no one is interested? If I had a clue, I would fix the problem.

Love/Hate

As you may have noticed, I follow a number of kinky and alternasex blogs, particularly those about femdom. I myself have no real desire to dominate, although I will admit to the occasional sadistic indulgence. Mostly I follow these writers because I enjoy their incisiveness and wicked wit.

One of my favorites for a good while now has been Bitchy Jones. She has made quite a splash in the sexverse for her vocal complaints about the current state of femdom, and rightly so as there is much to complain about. I am very much onboard with her for posts like this and this, although she did rather lose me with her series "Piss, Blood, Rape, Death". But that's not actually what I want to write about.

I want to write about her latest post. I am all kinds of disappointed that she took the beauty-is-worth-and-power paradigm, which is the central dysfunction between the sexes, and co-opted it for her own whining. Bitchy is right that beauty-desire is a passive thing and not at all powerful itself. But if her flavor of dominance is that she takes what she wants instead of submission being a gift to her, then why not seize her own sexuality? Why must it be so affected by what other people thinking/doing/wearing?

I think it is unfair of Bitchy to condemn those who fantasize about beautiful people. When I imagine (or engage in) submission, it is not to the ugliest man I can find. It is to a handsome man with a big cock. Does that disenfranchise the ugly men with little dicks? Probably. But it's my fucking fantasy. So why does Bitchy take it so fucking personally that submissive men fantasize about a beautiful Domme? It sounds like sour apples.

Moreover, Bitchy's agitation is all the more baffling to me because she does not seem to be lacking for sex partners. In addition to other men, she can indulge herself to her heart's twisted content with Pan. Some of us don't have a single playmate. Some of us are not allowed any sexuality at all.

Talk about the ultimate disenfranchisement.

More Than Meets The Eye

So, I saw Transformers tonight with GH (who flakily showed up at the last second). What an awesome summertime movie! Despite its obligatory two-dimensional characterizations, it was a LOT of fun.

Now, you might expect someone like the Spinster to prefer Jane Austen adaptations and the ilk. Jackson even called us conservative the other day *sniff*. But never fear! There is more to the Spinster than meets the eye. Heh. The Spinster's ingredients for the perfect movie: 1) hot lead actors, 2) car chases, 3) explosions.

I think we have come, Dear Readers, to a moment of confession. My favorite character was not Captain Lennox (played by purty Josh Duhamel), or funny Sam (played by future superstar Shia LaBeouf). Nor was it the endearing Bumblebee or brave Optimus Prime.


It was Ironside. See, I have this thing for trucks. Big trucks. Especially big, black trucks. I don't recall ever *not* feeling this way about trucks . . . it's practically a fetish. So everytime Ironside came on the screen in truck form, pervert that I am, I got a little wetter.

Jackson has a big, black, diesel Silverado. I should call him >:)

Of Course

*grumble*

Of course this week has not even remotely lived up to expectations.

Jackson claims to have developed a headcold and can't see me for at least a week. A perfectly reasonable excuse, you might say. Except I've heard this one before from guys and on at least two occasions it was proven bullshit.

Today is Thursday (duh), but I still haven't heard from Dotty about finalizing our plans for tomorrow. My money's on not hearing from him until the middle of next week, and then he'll be all "Where were you? I thought we were going to get together last Friday." This, too, is a game I've seen before. I could contact him, yes, but I've gone and boneheadedly lost his phone number and I've already tried to get him by IM.

GH is being a flake. After going out of his way to make a date, he has changed the time twice and asked if he could bring his bandmates along. All while maintaining that his interest is more than platonic. WTF?

One of Us

http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2007/01/23/excellence_fatigue/index.html

This woman is one of us. Maybe she's as pretty as she claims, maybe she's not. But for whatever reason, men are not pursuing her.

When It Rains, It Pours

After a dry spell consisting of, oh, let's say MY WHOLE LIFE, things are suddenly interesting. Yes, your very own Invisible Spinster has managed to get three dates with three different guys.

Last night was the first one, and it went swimmingly. He is intelligent, charming, funny, successful in his profession, and definitely someone I would like to get to know better. I will call him . . . Jackson.

Number two is a character I've chatted with online for a while now. He is educated, witty, and what we have isn't chemistry, it's passion. I can tell already that sex with him would be an intense experience, whether it's the melding of two souls or flat out fucking. Talking with him can be intoxicating, but when we disagree . . . oh boy, watch out! The sparks sure fly. In theory we are set for Friday night. He thinks it's some sort of omen, us meeting for the first time on Friday the 13th. For this reason I will call him Dotty.

Behind door number three is a PhD candidate. I am currently the least interested in him because I just don't think we have the chemistry. Although intelligent, we don't have a whole lot in common. Heaven only knows what he sees in me; I don't sense that he's genuinely interested, only that I'm caught up in some sort of cynical play-the-odds game on his part. I agreed to go out with him because I need the practice. I will nickname him Guitar Hero, GH for short, because (drumroll please) . . . he plays the guitar.

All three of these gentlemen I found online, which seems to me a mixed blessing. I am pleased that someone is showing an interest in me, but I am disappointed that I remain invisible in my daily life. Nevertheless, I am working to concentrate on the positive as much as possible. I will keep you posted!

[EDIT: Just after publishing this post, Jackson sent a txt message saying what a good time he had last night and that we will have to get together again soon. Woohoo!]

Trans-Siberian Vibrations

Classical music was the original rock n' roll -- some of it was never meant to be played at a reasonable volume:

Christmas Eve Sarajevo

1812 Overture

Non Nobis Domine (from Henry V soundtrack)

Beethoven's 9th Symphony, 4th Movement

Hall of the Mountain King

Wizards in Winter

Paranoia

I collect articles about the Otherworld. The Other world of the CIA, of spies and back room deals.

Black sites:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2005/11/01/AR2005110101644.html

Ted Rall, Afghanistan
http://www.citypaper.net/pipeline/

Undercurrents

Sorry folks for the off-topic post today. Instead, we'll be talking world politics. Not the goofy camera-ready crap on Capitol Hill, but the real deal.

I came across this article (reg req) in the New York Times recently and it sent shivers up my spine. For those of you too lazy to follow the link, it is a lengthy article about Russia's forced nationalization of the world's largest nickel producer. This is scary when you put it context. Putin's goverment pushed Yukos Oil out of business a few years ago and has since forced the sale of any number of "strategic assets" to the goverment and its friends. Moreover, these assets are on a foreign buying spree.

I am a capitalist through and through (Ayn Rand, anyone?), but events like these unsettle me on an even deeper level. This growing list of foreign-owned strategic assets and commodity companies is a fatal cancer for America's economy. It is also, and perhaps more worryingly, the weakening of the foundation of our political power on the world stage. I happen to think President Bush has done some irreparable damage to our economy and reputation, but I also think this pales in comparison to the threat that we are up against with the balance of "commodity power" lurching as it is, away from American shores.

Gas and oil are the commodities everyone worries about, but there is also outsourced food production as more of our land is lost to urban sprawl, raw metals and materials, even technical know-how. The brouhaha over the Dubai Ports World contract is part of this. In its own way, the use of private military companies (mercenaries) by the U.S. military is part of this.

How are we to remain independent if we do not control our essential commodities?

The scariest part of all is that there is absolutely nothing that you and I can do about it. Shopping at the "right" store and buying the "right" goods can't fix it. Electing the "right" politician(s) can't fix it. Invading the "right" country can't fix it.

The Eat Me Beat Me Lady

There is nothing quite so effective at making one feel completely inadequate as reading sex bloggers. Tales of sexual conquests and fuckfests. Orgasm smorgasbords and skillful lovers.

I want my share.

Dear Universe, bring me the man who will fuck me senseless. A man who eats pussy the way *I* want it, not the way he saw in some porn flick. In no particular order I want to be fucked, hit, eaten, beaten, tied up, tied down, choked, teased, given sweet release, and then fucked some more.

I am not horny. I am indignant that the universe has denied me.

Sometimes . . .

Sometimes the frustration is just too much . . .